Sexual confidence is all about knowing your worth, your abilities and what you are bringing with you to the bedroom. That, more than anything, is the key to having great sex. But it can be shattered if you have suffered from a traumatic break up.
Get Rid of the Gremlin
The inner gremlin of self-doubt is a bully. It berates and chastises all day long, but only if you let it. When it bullies you with negativity it is time to simply stand up to it. If you had a real-life bully berate you or put you down you wouldn’t just take it would you?
Exactly. So, speak to that negative gremlin the way that you would anyone else being rude to you. Also, if you think you wouldn’t be saying those things to your friends that their new partner would be disappointed in them sexually? Of course not. Kill that gremlin.
Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real
Fear is not just in your head, it’s also a passion killer. If you’re frightened, ask yourself a few questions. What am I frightened of? What’s the worst that can happen? Why don’t I feel confident? Then challenge the hell out of those thoughts and start looking for evidence you already have, to disprove the negativity.
You will be able to find proof that there were times you have been confident and felt great, you just need to let yourself look for it. Remember that confidence is a feeling created by a thought so check your thoughts and change how you feel. It really is up to you.
Know your worth
Seriously isn’t it about time you started having your own back? Isn’t it about time you started to choose to like yourself and look at all the wonderful things that make you you? When we really know our worth, we become sexually confident effortlessly.
Confidence isn’t something you get from anyone else other than yourself. Confidence is not something you need a partner to give you or validate in you. when we really know our worth, we stop giving people discounts. So, start being nice to yourself and you’ll find more people willing to be nice to you.