Your partner has erectile dysfunction. What can you do about it? It’s a sensitive topic that can cause friction in a relationship. It is important to understand that ED is usually a medical problem that affects both of you. Your partner will be feeling frustration, sadness and uncertainty, so it is vital that you stand by him and support him through the issue.
You may start to look inwards for the causes. It is common to ask yourself the question “Is it me?” when your partner is suffering from ED. You should educate yourself on ED and the treatment options available and talk openly with your partner, accompanying him to any of his medical appointments to show solidarity.
Having “The Conversation” can be a painful process. There is no right or wrong way to talk to your partner about his ED situation but to avoid frustration, anger and decreased intimacy in the relationship it is crucial to speak to each other. Here are a few tips to help you have that discussion:
- Openly discuss with your partner the problem and reassure them that you are there for them.
- Focus on emotional intimacy, supported with physical affection including kisses, hugs and other physical contact that does not necessarily focus on sexual intercourse. This can result in an increased desire and motivation to pursue a solution that works for your partners ED.
How can I start the conversation?
You know your partner best. Approaching them about seeing their Doctor is best done by using your own initiative. However, there are a few ways you can start the conversation.
“I did some research, and I found out that we are not alone. Many couples have this problem, we could speak to your Doctor. What do you think?”
“Is there something on your mind? I am here for you. Do you want to talk about it?”
Most importantly it is imperative that you reassure your partner that they are not alone. There is treatment available both through surgical and non-surgical methods to treat erectile dysfunction and many thousands of men undergo treatment every year with their GP to resolve the problem.