Loss of interest in sex and low sex drive isn’t unusual, it affects up to one in five men at some point. Usually, it’s short term – after a life-changing event like pregnancy or childbirth.
If it lasts longer, it can be a sign of other problems. Your GP can help and so can a sexual health clinic.
Could it be my relationship?
That is probably the first thing to consider. Are you happy? Do you have doubts or worries? Have you become overfamiliar with your partner and feel a degree of “erotic dissatisfaction”? This is common too – talking about it with your partner, perhaps with a relationship support charity like Relate, can help.
Are you obsessed with performance? A little loss of libido and erectile hardness is normal as you age. If you are the sort of guy who freaks over how good he is, this can play havoc with your head. It’s about accepting the fact you are getting older, nothing more. If you think there might be more to it than this, ask your GP about psychosexual counselling.
What are the other causes?
Lots of problems can manifest themselves in loss of interest in sex – tiredness, anxiety, depression. Deal with those challenges and your sexual desire will probably come back. Make sure that any medical treatment doesn’t make the sex problem worse, low sex drive can be a side effect of many antidepressants.
As well as anti-depressants, other drugs can seriously affect your sex drive. These include medication for high blood pressure, seizures and hair loss as well as diuretics and drugs to treat more serious mental health problems. Illegal drugs and alcohol can also reduce sex drive.
What about mid-life crisis?
Some people lose interest in sex as they get older and become unbothered by sex. Sex drive is certainly related to hormones so there may be hormonal treatments that can help if you have a poor functioning thyroid or genuine low levels of testosterone. A hormonal problem called hyperprolactinaemia can also harm your sex drive.