In order for a man to build his confidence in the bedroom, it’s vital to identify what is making them feel insecure in the first place. To discover the reasons why men may suffer a crisis in confidence, it helps to understand what will give a man confidence in the first place. Whether it be, relationships, status, cultural values, such as those placed upon how we look, along with how our body works, all underpin our confidence.
If any of these elements are undermined this can easily impact a man’s mental health and physical performance. So, a change in status, for example losing a job, or anxiety around your body not working the way you want it to, can seriously affect self-esteem. Although men and women both take strength and build confidence from similar factors, for men a crisis in confidence may be compounded by a reluctance to deal with emotional issues in the way women do – by airing, sharing and confronting issues full on.
A 2016 US study of more than 100,000 men highlighted how male self-confidence is affected by body image; disturbingly, fewer than half of the men surveyed were satisfied with their body. This dissatisfaction can cause low self-esteem, anxiety and depression. Whether its media images of perfection or the filtered lives portrayed on social media, envy can have a corrosive effect. If the comparisons are favourable we feel good, if unfavourable we feel bad. So, instead of comparing ourselves with others it’s healthier to focus on our own personal best.
Not only do men suffer from self-esteem issues when it comes to how their body looks, but also how their body works. The masculine gender role also impact on men’s sex lives with the pressure to perform. Sexual encounters are described by some as conquests and validation of male power, so when men experience erectile problems it can hit right at the core of what it means to be a man. Sometimes, it might be temporary but usually, it involves seeking help. For some men who won’t even stop the car to ask for directions, this is a major barrier.
Research shows that men who experience erectile dysfunction report a reduction in their self-esteem. It is because sexual performance and the ability to satisfy your partner sexually are important contributors to self-esteem. They specifically impact on close relationships and confidence in one’s own physical health. Erectile dysfunction is more common than you might think: 4.3 million men in the UK experience problems getting or maintaining an erection. But there is light at the end of this seemingly dark tunnel. Those men who successfully seek out treatment for erectile dysfunction, including medical help, also report recovery of their self-esteem.
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