For many people across the UK, Valentine’s Day is a date to look forward to, the perfect chance to rekindle the romance in your relationship and demonstrate how much your partner means to you. For others, February 14th approaches with pressure to exceed expectations and be the “perfect partner”. This typically involves buying red roses and chocolates, exchanging cards with deep and meaningful messages of love, having a romantic dinner, and last but not least having passionate, mind-blowing sex.
Such pressure to perform on the day might increase the anxiety levels, which can spoil your enjoyment and lead to sexual difficulties such as erectile dysfunction. So, it is no wonder that prescriptions for PDE5 inhibitors, increase in the run-up to Valentine’s Day. It is a popular medical treatment for erectile dysfunction and works by increasing blood flow to the penis. Anxiety and stress can cause erectile dysfunction or can make it worse, so treatment can be effective in overcoming this problem.
Consider these top tips as well:
- Decide not to have penetrative sex on Valentine’s Day, particularly if it causes pressure to perform. A massage or non-penetrative sex might be more enjoyable.
- Avoid the pressures of Valentine’s Day altogether and celebrate your relationship in other ways at other times. Get some perspective; ask yourself, what does this day even mean to you and your partner?
- Talk to your partner about what each other’s expectations are. Valentine’s Day can be a source of tension for couples, especially when one expects the other to live up being some kind of love god or goddess. We are not mind-readers; aiming to provide the perfect Valentine’s Day for your partner might be more of an unachievable fantasy than reality. By not talking about it, you are more likely to be setting each other up to fall. Perhaps agree in advance on what you do and don’t want from Valentine’s Day.
If you still feel that Valentine’s Day intercourse is non-negotiable and worry that erectile dysfunction will occur, there are some points worth noting if you are considering medical interventions:
- You need to feel desire towards your partner for it to work
- You may have to take it on several occasions before it is effective and it does not work for everyone.
- If you take it with a high-fat content meal, its effectiveness could be compromised.
It is important to be aware that although erectile dysfunction may have psychological causes such as anxiety or relationship problems, erectile dysfunction can also be caused by underlying health conditions such as cardiovascular disease and diabetes. Always get these medications on prescription from a GP. These drugs may not be suitable for everyone, so medical consultation should be sought. If erectile dysfunction is an ongoing problem, there are other effective medical, surgical and non-medical treatments worth considering, including psychosexual therapy.
If you’re suffering from erectile dysfunction, then book a consultation to have a chat with a Urologist!